Happy birthday, Dad.
It is my dad’s birthday tomorrow. I have had a card ready to send to him for almost a week, and I keep forgetting it at home because I am apparently awesome. (I hope you sense the sarcasm there). There is no excuse for this, so I won’t make one.
I don’t talk to my dad a lot, at least by the standards of most of the people I know. Not because we don’t get along – we get along well, especially now that I’m an adult. ;-) It’s more that neither of us are really phone people. I talk to my mom on the phone once every couple of weeks, and that’s about it. I think of the phone as a utilitarian thing…if I don’t need something or have something specific to share I don’t usually call. Not because I don’t want to keep in touch or don’t care. It’s more that I feel like I don’t really have anything to say (And yet I have a blog. The irony is not lost.). I love my dad a lot. He is a typical Northern Minnesotan of Scandinavian heritage…he doesn’t express his emotions much (unless he’s really mad about something). I, on the other hand, usually express enough emotion for the whole family. But for some reason it’s hard to tell him how much I care.
I miss my parents a lot when I don’t get to go home to visit them. Ryan and I haven’t been home since the beginning of March, and I can tell. I get more weepy at cute family stuff (on TV, the internet, movies – whatever), and I get a really strong urge to listen to nothing but country music. It’s weird, because I haven’t lived at home since I left for college, almost 10 years ago, and I was never one to go home every weekend (I couldn’t afford the drive even if I wanted to). When I lived in Delaware for almost a year I only got home once. So it’s not like I’m not used to not being there. But the way I start feeling after a couple months is the reason that I won’t move far away.
I’m going to visit my mom’s parents at the end of this month. It won’t be going home, but it will be close (I love going to see them). And I’ll hopefully get to see my dad and his side of the family the next weekend when we celebrate 4th of July. I don’t know where we’ll be, but we’ll be together.
I know most of you that read are relatives, and so I know that you are still close to your parents. But for the rest of you, are you so lucky?
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about 2 years ago
I talk to my parents on the phone maybe once a month. And I see them maybe every 2-3 months (more around the holidays; I think this year between Thanksgiving and Christmas I saw them about 4 times!).
My parents now read my blog everyday, which is weird because it’s my parents, but also nice because I think they feel more tied into my life.
about 2 years ago
I’m the same way. I talk to my mom once every week or so, and my dad much less often than that. But we’re still close–that’s not the issue. It’s just different.
Happy birthday to your dad!
about 2 years ago
I bug my parents at least weekly for advice about the garden or cooking. Good thing they’re so awesome that they don’t even mind!
about 2 years ago
4th of July will be at our house this year. Uncle Richard & Aunt Carol & some of their grandchildren will be home, so everyone is coming to our place for the 4th. I definitly have incentive to get busy in the yard while I’m on vacation the next couple of weeks!